Sunday night sharing. My head has been full of so many thoughts and I’m having trouble putting it together. So, I’ve decided to share some random thoughts. At least that keeps me writing.

  1. Isn’t this photo beautiful? It’s from a site called Little Visuals with photos from a young man who named Nic who died suddenly at 26. I’m really drawn to his photos.
  2. I started listening to the Love + Radio podcast. The first two I heard were amazing and the third was not. Deciding whether to keep listening.
  3. Speaking of podcasts, I heard this on Invisiblia and I keep thinking about it. I’m not there, yet. Still trying to get my arms around: Fear = thinking + time
  4. We don’t have a doorbell.
  5. I don’t like really windy days (like today). I didn’t mind heavy winds when I was little, but a friend told me years and years ago (in the 1970’s) about his fears and I totally absorbed it.
  6. Having all my boys together last week was so nice.
  7. We went to Hersh’s last night with friends we hadn’t seen for a while and the food and company were perfect.
  8. I have a speaking thing coming up that I’m really excited about. More later.
  9. We bought vintage dining room chairs – the same chair but from 2 different sources – that we’ll have upholstered to all match. It’s thrilling and I love them. Pix when they’re done.
  10. Sunday nights are my favorite. So quiet. So nice. Except that the work week starts again tomorrow, which is a bummer. Of course, this implies I didn’t work over the weekend (which isn’t true) but the pressure and pace are just different. Note: I love my work. But I do love the weekends!
  11. I just wanted to end on a weird number. Good night!

The squeaky wheel gets the oil. Or does it?

We’ve all long heard the saying that the squeaky wheel gets the oil, meaning that the loudest (or most annoying) problems are the most likely to get attention and be handled. I’m sure we can all think of hundreds of examples where this is true. Just think about the last time you waiting in line at the customer service line at a retailer and (inadvertently) overheard the people ahead of you. Or remember that time you were having a lovely meal and the man at the next table demanded to see the chef? Yup. Squeaky wheel.

I am here today with another theory. Don’t get me wrong, I am not suggesting the Squeaky Wheel Theory (SWT) is not proven time and time again. It is. It is reality. My theory is ancillary and co-exists just fine.

The Squeaky Wheel Becomes Part of the Background Noise (SWBPBN).

So you know how you go to visit someone who lives right by the train tracks? The train goes by and you think, “who could live here?” and come to realize your friend truly does not hear the train. Or, you’re on the phone with your sister-in-law and her children are making a racket to beat all rackets in the background and she keeps talking as if nothing is going on and she’s totally not distracted. But you can’t hear anything except, “I had it first!”

We all have our own realities and everything cannot be a priority. We have to push some of it down. Ignore it. Learn to live with it. Just deal.

And so it goes.

We don’t know we’re suffering, but we are. It’s still there, but we don’t notice really. Until we do.

And then, it’s unbearable.

Our hall closet shelving and rod collapsed a month or so ago. It had that wire rack kind of set-up. No one should have been surprised about the crash, as we had about 5 times more weight hanging than any reasonable person would suggest. There ARE five of us and Andrew does have motorcycle riding gear (heavy!) and I have all sorts of other excuses why this was not a priority. But it wasn’t. And it collapsed.

I sprang into action. Everyone had to get their own coats and put them in their own closets. Then, we’d fix the hall closet.

And then, Reed’s closet shelving/rod collapsed due to the extra weight from his coats. (Can you say, “What were you thinking, Wendy?”)

While trying to help Reed solve this newly created problem, it became apparent that his closet was just not working. It’s small and a weird shape with lots of wasted space. So we decided to make some changes and get some shelving and make it better. We got a recommendation from Angie’s List for ClosetAmerica and they came out to see it. The designer had a great concept, the price was fair (nice Angie’s List coupon!!) and service was perfect. All set now. Except…

The closet doors are so difficult to slide. They’re HEAVY and make noise. They’ve been like that since the day we moved in. We’d have to shave off a little from the bottom or get new doors. Right?

Or I could try a little WD-40.

Which I did. And which solved the problem completely. The doors glide effortlessly.

And then, I took my trusty WD-40 to the hall closet (which is now fixed) but that also has heavy, impossible sliding doors. Except all it needed was some spray. Repeat for the closet in the mud room where we keep school backpacks, wrapping paper, and cat supplies. Opens and closes like the breeze. And no more squeaking.

We put up with those squeaky doors that were impossible to open without a heave-ho for 3 years.

3 years.

It took less than 5 minutes total to solve the problem. And with a product I already had sitting in the garage.

Not to get all deep on you this Saturday morning, but I’m thinking that there are a lot of little things that could make our lives better if we’d just take a minute and pay them some mind. All that background noise – whether we can tolerate it or not – adds up and takes away from the good stuff.

I look in the mirror.

Sometimes, I walk past a mirror and am surprised at how tired I look.

Not that I think I’m different from most of you, but my days are long, long, long. Up at 5:45 most days. Gym by 6:30 on some, feeding the cats and seeing the boys off on others. Their bus comes at 6:55. Crazy, right?

More days than not, I’m working by 7:00. I barely look up until lunchtime. And it might be exaggerating to say that I “take a lunch break.” What I do is grab some lunch. And then I work (read: sit at the computer) until 6:00 or later with a brief break to say hi to the boys when they come home before they start their homework.

I’m not complaining. I love my work. I’m grateful to have challenging and interesting things to do – and to make a living doing them. But squinting at the computer can take its toll. It’s tiring. Fine. Not the kind of tiring as, let’s say, doing construction or moving appliances, but tiring.

And so, for today, I’m more of a slippers girl than a boots girl.

But don’t think that’s how it’s going to stay. Because nothing stays the same.


photo credit Onatos
photo credit Onatos

You might think I haven’t posted much because I haven’t had many ideas. You would be quite wrong. I’ve had lots of ideas. Lots. Allow me to demonstrate. The following list is an actual – I mean no changes, actual, actually copied from my computer ‘sticky notes’ directly:

  • hairy legs
  • autograph book
  • china
  • elbow wrinkles
  • letter train
  • biting nails
  • reply all – appropriate for just a kind word?

So, yes. I have ideas. And from the list above you can see that they’re pretty darn great ideas.  (And don’t get the idea here that I’m not going to use those ideas again. I am. Trust me on this.)

I haven’t had a lot of free time. Ha. There’s an understatement! And the little time I’ve had, I’ve chosen to spend it with my guys. (Or to go to Stoop Storytelling.)

Always the optimist, I think I’ll be catching up soon. Maybe I’ll write a ton of posts and schedule them out.

Or maybe I’ll keep doing the best I can and write when I can and hope that anyone still reads. Doing my best over here.


True Confessions.

photo credit Ayla87

I have quite a few pairs of jeans. Joe’s, Lucky, Seven for all Mankind, a great pair of skinnies from Urban Outfitters.

And I have a pair of stretchy mom jeans. Yes, they are highrise. Well, not highrise like I wore in junior high, but the waistband hits about an inch below my navel. They are comfortable. Very, very comfortable. They don’t ride up. I don’t worry about muffin top issues. My shirts always hit safely below the line with no stomach showing.

I wear them often. Now, mind you, I rarely wear them out of the house. But.

Today, I did.

And that’s not the worst of it. The legs were rolled up even though the width of the pants legs aren’t ideal for rolling, if you know what I mean. And I was wearing ‘crunchy’ sandals. And a faded, long, pink V-neck t-shirt. And no make-up. And way less than ideal hair.

It wasn’t a good look. And you know what? I didn’t care.

So that’s why I’m writing this.

For years and years and years, I’d see women at the store or at the veterinarian (like I was today) or wherever and I’d think to myself, “Can you imagine going out looking like that?”

And today? I can.

Call me nostalgic. I don’t mind.

I don’t know why this makes me sad, but it does. The Forest Diner closed this summer after more than 6 decades. Check out the linked blog post and you’ll see that it was a diner encased in a building. I love that. This diner was hiding for years in side the Forest Diner. When you were inside, you could see the transition. I always thought it was pretty neat.

What’s sad to me is that this landmark is leaving. And a shopping center is taking its place. The old motel behind it has already been taken down leaving only a small part of it as evidence that it was there.

It’s not that I don’t like change. (Well, I don’t actually, but that’s not the point.) It’s that I love old things that last. I love seeing things and going places that have history. I love to imagine what it would have been like back in the day.

Maybe that’s why I like national parks and taking the back road so much. (In that song, my favorite line? Put a little gravel in my travel.)

Looking back at the pix from our last trip, I’m starting to see a pattern.

Call me nostalgic. I don’t mind.

Storage Wars

You may know that I’m a little obsessed with American Pickers. But you may not know that Storage Wars is a close second. You don’t know that show? It’s a modern-day treasure hunt where people bid on storage lockers and they only get a look. No digging through. A junk shoppers dream.

So, while not so closely related, when I saw the Extra Space “What’s in Store” game where you pick a storage locker for the chance to win great prizes (and discover useful organization tips from their professional organizers), I was intrigued.

You might remember the nice folks from Extra Space. I wrote about them after Blissdom because they were nice enough to ship all my stuff home from the conference. I know, right? And they were super nice.

So go play their game if you have a minute or two.